DISCLAIMER: Past performance does not equate to future performance.
haven't you heard? People change.... :)
LOVE…a four letter word that means nothing to some…but alot to others…….
Like respect, to get it or feel it, you must give it. Its something you have to show. By wat means…that is up to you and the person you love….
Ultimately, it has to be felt…for optimum results.
If you love someone alot…..show them you sincerely do…or even do stupid stuff for them. Do not be shocked if you do not get the same treatment in return. For to some, you do not have to show love to say that you love someone. Like I said before, for both to benefit from it, being mutual is the best.
For if both knows the extend of love each other has for each other, small problems can be settled, your mind wont get to the state of paranoia, simply state, love conquers all.
So think about it, when was the last time you told that special someone you really love him/her. not just by words, but by actions…which adds on to the sincerity. If you have not done so, try before its too late. Maybe just drop by his/her place with gifts, surprise him/her w a hug….you know…nice heart warming stuff.
Fuel. Things in life cant run long without ‘fuel’. like cars, we also need ‘fuel’ to work. nutritious food to fuel our strength to carry out various activities, challenging problems to fuel our minds to think and be alert, motivations to fuel our spirits….and what about love? Love also need that fuel.Sometimes..after years of marriage….couples tend to realise that their love for each other is declining.Why? that is because they take each other for granted. To think that being married itself is a life long pledge of love.Wrong.That is because, they fail to once in a while refuel their love, do something sweet for their partner, do that sacrifice once more as they did during courtship…dats the missing key.
If you believe that marriage is just a compromise between two people, than I am sad for you. True,compromise is important, thats where sacrifices lies.If there is no love to begin with, would you even get married in the first place? Im not talking about fix marriages. Im talking about love before marriage…the kind that most of us are looking for. But to get this, are you ready to give as well? theres no one way road here…theres always two.
Men by nature are tough in the emotions department. They may appear that they do not need to be shown love and stuff. However, the truth is, no matter how different both sexes are, we are both humans, born with a heart..with a capacity to feel. Maybe because of ego, it may appear that they do not want to be mushily treated. that doesnt mean you do not show them you love them. The key is occasionally. Occasionally show them you love them. For like women, we men also want to be loved. So, if you keep failing in relationships with man, think about it, have you been a good partner? Did you show your man what they mean to you..not juz verbally.
Women on the other hand…are very emotional. They need to be loved, to be secure. If you guy doesnt give you or show you that, be patient, look out for signs, hes sure to have done something nice to you…even how minute it is to you, for him its a great deal. over time…when hes comfortable, he will open more. However if he doesnt…maybe it is time to assess him on how much you really mean to him, or are you being taken on a ride (Spare Tyre)…till a better offer comes along
However, there are also guys who are very loving and passionate towards women. This I should say are the rare cases. However if you do come upon one, do not let him always be the one doing things…for sooner or later, if you do not comply to his feelings, then he may feel that hes the spare tyre. communicate. understand each other…show love to each other..
Show love to the person to the level that he/she shows love.I got this from someone. and i think it is very practical. If your partner keeps saying that they are helplessly romantic and stuff like that, do not be fooled into giving him/her what he/she wants…as in how he/she picture to be treated. For if they are the kind they say, they will act as how they want to be treated. so lay back…see how he/she treets you…and act accordingly… so in this case, you dont feel deprived and neither will the other party
Sad to say, for a guy I am hopelessly romantic. I try to give the best that I can offer to my partners. However, its been tried and tested that it doesnt seem to work that way. Cos some people just cannot treasure the things you do for them.Maybe they need more time to realise…or maybe their ego’s like that, BUT you have to take effort in confirming and not just give up. Im speaking in general of course. I believe in the concept of soulmate. That there is someone out there made for me. However, soulmates are humans as well. if you dont work out the relationship, things will end eventually. You are not so lucky as too marry that soulmate without any test.For I believe, God do not just give things that precious that easily. You have to go thru lots of hardships and tests…to know for certain whether he/she is the one. A relationship without flaws is fake. For nothing is perfect in this world. I kinda interviewed and studied a few marriages and relationships…and none of the sustaining ones manage to survive so long without fights and arguments. That i believe is the challenge….and at the end of the day….when everything resides…IF the love is strong…things will get better for both.Learn and move on together….
So if your expecting your soulmate to be a knight in a shining armor kinda thing…To be perfect and flawless…to always be full in love w each other….WAKE UP. That only happen in movies…maybe more like cartoons.
Call me jiwang call me silly or say that I am living in my fantasy world.Say what you want…but I am responsible for ME. This is how i am and I am not shy to admit it.
Things that I learn in the past week is to be responsible for yourself. For no one can help you if you are not. And right now, I am taking that responsibility. I am being responsible for my life. No more excuses.
"Judge and ye shall be judge", Abraham Lincon
Welcome To My Life
Do you ever feel like breaking down?
Do you ever feel out of place?
Like somehow you just don’t belong
And no one understands you
Do you ever wanna run away?
Do you lock yourself in your room?
With the radio on turned up so loud
That no one hears you screaming
No you don’t know what it’s like
When nothing feels all right
You don’t know what it’s like
To be like me
To be hurt
To feel lost
To be left out in the dark
To be kicked when you’re down
To feel like you’ve been pushed around
To be on the edge of breaking down
And no one’s there to save you
No you don’t know what it’s like
Welcome to my life
Do you wanna be somebody else?
Are you sick of feeling so left out?
Are you desperate to find something more?
Before your life is over
Are you stuck inside a world you hate?
Are you sick of everyone around?
With their big fake smiles and stupid lies
While deep inside you’re bleeding
No you don’t know what it’s like
When nothing feels all right
You don’t know what it’s like
To be like me
To be hurt
To feel lost
To be left out in the dark
To be kicked when you’re down
To feel like you’ve been pushed around
To be on the edge of breaking down
And no one’s there to save you
No you don’t know what it’s like
Welcome to my life
No one ever lied straight to your face
And no one ever stabbed you in the back
You might think I’m happy but I’m not gonna be okay
Everybody always gave you what you wanted
You never had to work it was always there
You don’t know what it’s like, what it’s like
To be hurt
To feel lost
To be left out in the dark
To be kicked when you’re down
To feel like you’ve been pushed around
To be on the edge of breaking down
And no one’s there to save you
No you don’t know what it’s like (what it’s like)
To be hurt
To feel lost
To be left out in the dark
To be kicked when you’re down
To feel like you’ve been pushed around
To be on the edge of breaking down
And no one’s there to save you
No you don’t know what it’s like
Welcome to my life
Welcome to my life
Welcome to my life
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I cant believe I wrote that :P